When I began this blog about a year ago, I made the very deliberate decision to disable comments on the posts. I had listened to a podcast interview with Danielle Laporte - a formidable, warm tiger of a leader - and she boldly spoke about refusing others to comment on her blog because it was getting too intense. I am not sure if she still disables comments, but I remember hearing that and alarm bells went off in my head and thoughts like "OH M G I better also disable comments because I do NOT need that negativity in my life". Shutting them down.
If there is one thing that freaks me out these days it is cyberbullying. This fear was recently heightened when I discovered a former co-worker of mine - who I adored and was a dear friend - turned out to be a part-time aggressive cyberbully (not to me, but other mutual friends). That person may defend themselves as a comedian, but after choking back some tears after reading one of their vicious comments, I will wholeheartedly disagree. It made me super sad. It still does.
So when it came time to launch my blog I was definitely in the 'no comments' zone and felt it was the best thing to do. I was envisioning comments like 'You sound like a whiny loser' or 'You have no right to post such airy-fairy bullshit'. You know, those kind of kind of optimistic helpful comments we all know and love.
What I didn't think about was the fact that I was indeed letting fear run the show - and my online business.
What makes more sense is for me to TRY allowing comments and see where it goes. The fact is currently I have just a handful of readers - I am not Danielle Laporte obviously - and I may actually cultivate a nice little community here and be pleasantly surprised. And if it does go a little south I can always course correct. That sounds much more rational and allows me to be open to positive engagement with others.
And most importantly, what is right for Danielle Laporte is not necessarily right for me.
By disabling comments it was just another way for me to keep people at arm's length and protect myself. But if I want to be brave and garner thousands of readers - which I do - then I have to be more open to online conversations.
Today, if you want to become a digital maven you really do need to let others engage on your blog AND engage with others on their blogs. It is imperative, necessary and hopefully an uplifting experience.
So Mavens, feel free to comment below and of course share this post! I am so excited to have you here.
To your brave success,